Lady Gaga’s “Telephone” & Relationship Abuse

We often think of love like it is portrayed in the movies, consuming-can’t-stop-thinking about-you, want-to-spend-every-waking-minute-with-you love. But in the real world, that kind of love is not only unrealistic, it’s unhealthy. Telephone by Lady GaGa featuring Beyonce makes the important point that obsessive relationships can be stressful and exhausting:

“Stop callin’, stop callin’,
I don’t wanna talk anymore!”

“Boy, the way you blowin’ up my phone
won’t make me leave no faster…
I shoulda left my phone at home,
’cause this is a disaster!”
“Callin’ like a collector –
Sorry, I cannot answer!”

The stress from being in constant communication with your partner can affect you in many negative ways. Checking your phone constantly and nonstop texting can make it impossible to live in the moment. This song sends an empowering message to anyone in this kind of unhealthy relationship. Change your routine, ditch your phone, hang out with friends, family or just have some “me” time.

For more information, check out or page on the dynamics of technology and abuse.