Whether you’re looking to ignite a spark or fan the flames of passion, I’m here to be your flirty text coach.

So, get your sass on because these 170 flirty things to say to a guy range from cute and playful to downright flaming hot habanero pepper spicy.

Consider yourself warned. 

How to Flirt With a Guy Over Text

You want to make him smile, maybe even blush a bit, and most importantly, leave him wanting more. Here are a few tips to note before we give you some examples:

• Make sure he knows you’re flirting or it could get awkward.
• Remember to use his name.
• Get to the point; don’t beat around the bush with small talk.
• Tease him a bit.
• Introduce a low-stakes debate, like pineapple on pizza.
• Ask questions to get him to flirt back.
• Compliment him.
• Mix it up with emojis, photos, gifs, and even audio messages.
• But leave the juicy details to the imagination!

If you follow this strategy, you’ll have him flirting back in no time. So load up on material to respond with by checking out our sample texts, some silly, some spicy!

Flirty Texts to Make Him Laugh

1. Are you made of copper and tellurium? Because you’re Cu-Te.
2. Why did the melons get married? Because they cantaloupe.
3. I was going to send you something sexy, but the mailman told me to get out of the mailbox.
4. What did the pickle say to his girlfriend? “You mean a great dill to me.“
5. If you were a pizza, you`d be my supreme. 😉
6. Why did the pencil ask the paper out? Because it thought it was the perfect match. Just like us!
7. I'm currently in a serious relationship with my bed. But you're a close second.
8. I hope you like breakfast because I love you a waffle lot.
9. Is your name Starbucks? Because I like you a latte.
10. What did one wall say to the other wall? “I`ll meet you at the corner, I think I've fallen for you.“
11. If you were a vegetable, you`d be a cute-cumber. I'd be a tomato, because I go red whenever I see you!🍅🥒
12. Are you a beaver? Because daaaaam!
13. Why did the banana go to the doctor? Because it wasn't peeling well. But you always make me feel better?
14. Why did the calculator go on a date with the pencil? Because it knew it could always count on it.
15. I'm not saying I'm Batman, but I am saying no one has ever seen me and Batman in the same room. Also, Alfred says hi!
16. Are you religious? Because you're the answer to all my prayers. Also, where's the nearest confessional? 🙏
17. Are you a tower? Because Eiffel for you.
18. Why did the computer go to therapy? Because it had too many relationships to process, but I only need you.
19. I'm not a photographer, but I can picture us together. Preferably somewhere with an open bar.
20. You must be a thief, because you stole my heart.
21. If kisses were snowflakes, I'd send you a blizzard.
22. Is your name Chapstick? Because you’re da balm.
23. Can I follow you home? My parents always told me to follow my dreams.
24. Is your body from McDonald's? Because I’m lovin’ it!
25. I'm watching a rom-com and pretending you're the leading man. Don't let me down!
26. Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes. Send help. And snacks.
27. Why did the painting go to jail? Because it was framed. But I'm framed by your love.
28. Do you like science? Because I've got my ion you. 🧪
29. I'm on a seafood diet. I see food and I eat it. Wanna be my main course?
30. I know I’m kind of a hopeless ramen-tic, but just wanted to say I love you — like, pho real.

One of the best ways to flirt with a guy over text is to keep it low-key, and silly jokes and puns are the best way to do it.

Laughter is like relationship glue — it sticks you together and fills in the cracks. Research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reveals that “humor can significantly enhance emotional intimacy and overall relationship satisfaction.”^[1]

By sending these lighthearted and amusing messages, you’re not only keeping the conversation engaging but also reminding him of the fun and playful connection you share.

Just remember, timing is everything in comedy — and texting. Maybe don’t drop that cute-cumber line when he’s giving a big presentation at work. Unless you want him giggling in front of his boss, in which case, go for it. No judgment here.

Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy

Think of these texts as a digital wink from across the room — an invitation to come over, but no pressure.

Flirting is both an art and a science.

Not surprisingly, a study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology reveals that flirting tactics vary depending on one’s gender and flirting intention. 

Women looking for short-term adventure find that signaling sexual availability is more effective, while men aiming for long-term commitments focus on displaying generosity and willingness to invest in the relationship​.^[2]

And that, my friend, is an essential piece of information if you are still unsure about his intentions and figuring out how to test his love. 

Whatever your or his intention, flirting should feel like an open invitation, a welcoming door that lets the other person decide whether to step through. 

Keep it comfortable and natural, not like you’re acting out a scene from a cheesy erotica novel. 

Good Morning & Good Night Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy

Wake him up with a smile and send him to bed with dreamy thoughts of you with 30 of the best flirty texts to make his day and night special. 

While I didn’t find a study on good morning texts or good night texts specifically, research shows that regular, affectionate digital communication boosts relationship satisfaction. 

According to a study published in Cyberpsychology: Journal of Psychosocial Research on Cyberspace, consistent, positive messaging can enhance emotional closeness and security in relationships.^[3]

So, those little innocent texts you send him really do make a difference! Start drafting that good morning text right now!

Cute Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy

Turn up the sweetness with these cute text messages that will make him go “Awwwww . . . .” 

They’re perfect for adding a little sugar to your sass.

Ever wonder why those mushy couple moments make you wince while they seem completely lost in each other?

A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology explains why romantic gestures feel cheesy to outsiders but magical to those involved. 

Lovers are blinded by a phenomenon called positive illusions. They simply see their partner through rosy lenses. Outsiders miss this emotional context, making grand gestures seem awkward.^[4] 

So, if some of those messages made you cringe, good. They’re supposed to. Without context, they’re just cheesy lines. You need a charming guy and some warm fuzzies in your heart to make them meaningful.

Still, proceed with caution. If you send texts like these to someone who isn’t in the same place as you romantically, they may do more harm than good. 

Funny Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy

Humor is the key to the heart, or whatever it is they say. We all love a cheesy pickup line. Here are 20 of them to tickle his funny bone. 

I had a blast writing these, so even if you aren’t going to use them, enjoy a good laugh!

According to the previously mentioned study from Evolutionary Psychology, making someone laugh or enjoying their jokes is the most effective way to connect, especially for men seeking long-term relationships. For women, laughter acts like a compatibility beacon, signaling mutual attraction.^[5]

While we may debate the effectiveness of pickup lines when delivered unironically, we cannot deny that if skillfully thrown in as a joke, they do their job quite well. 

That’s because humor is often vague and ambiguous, giving the recipient an open door. They can either take it as a joke and brush it off or play along. That’s why pickup lines are such a great flirtation device. Come on . . . “Yoda man for me”?! I LOLed more than once!

Seductive Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy

Ready to turn up the heat? 

Whether you’re interested in a short fling or you’ve been texting for a while and it’s time to make things steamy, these seductive texts will lay a carpet of rose petals straight to your door . . . or, you know, at least to the bedroom.

Not everyone’s into a slow burn, but that’s where the magic lies — building tension, hinting, and planting ideas that turn out to be irresistible. 

It’s not about what’s out in the open but what’s just slightly concealed, leaving plenty of room for his imagination to run wild. That’s the real art of seduction.

Esther Perel, my ultimate guru on desire and the star of one of the most-watched TED Talks ever, says that creating tension is essential for keeping the sexual spark and emotional connection between partners.^[6] 

Esther emphasizes that maintaining a sense of mystery and engaging in playful interactions helps sustain the erotic tension that fuels desire. It also fosters curiosity and anticipation, key elements of a passionate and fulfilling partnership.^[7]

So, whether you’ve been together forever or are just diving deeper (wink), remember: Deduction is more about what’s not said than what is.

Hot Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy

Once you’ve snagged his full attention and he can’t stop daydreaming about you, it’s time to play with some bolder moves.

These hot texts are guaranteed to make him blush, to say the least. 

We are now stepping into territory where texting becomes, well, a little bit more. 

You can clearly see how these are more explicit than seductive texts but not nearly as explicit as the spicy ones you’ll read next.

The thing about sexting is that it’s a subtle, intimate game of very explicit content. 

A study published in Computers in Human Behavior found that couples who engaged in consensual sexting reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction. However, this comes with the caveat that both parties must feel safe and respected throughout the process.^[8]

While sexting is a great tool to enhance your sex life and, therefore, your relationship, it should all be done within the clearly set boundaries that you and your partner define. 

Never share things that you are not comfortable sharing, and do not ask anyone to share anything they don’t want to share. Simple as that. 

And a quick PSA: Be aware of the risks. Not everyone out there has your best interests at heart. Sharing intimate content can sometimes lead to unwanted consequences like sextortion. 

The key takeaway? Keep communication open, respect each other’s limits, and always prioritize consent​. 

Spicy Texts to Send to a Guy

These texts are so spicy and steamy, they’ll make him loosen his tie to catch a breath.

Handle with care (and respect). 

As I wrote before, this is supposed to be fun and keep you excited for each other. If it feels uncomfortable, maybe sexting is not your thing, or maybe you are not there yet as a couple. 

Don’t listen to the internet about it; only listen to yourself (well, and your partner because nothing is sexier than consent).

How to Make Yourself More Attractive

While sending witty or eye-catching texts is a powerful technique, the most magnetic quality you can possess is genuine confidence.

Attraction isn’t just about what you say to a guy. It is about the energy you project before you even hit send.

Here are a few basic ways to boost your confidence and natural allure:

Getting Back Into Shape

Let’s be real. This isn’t about striving for an impossible cover-model standard. Getting back into shape is about physiology and chemistry.

• Focus on Posture: Strength training improves your posture. Standing tall projects dominance and confidence, which are universally attractive traits.
• Watch what you eat: Try to eat as clean as you can – no or minimal junk food, healthier versions of dishes whenever possible, lots of fresh fruits and veggies. The right food can help you lose weight faster.
• Consistency over Intensity: You don’t need to live in the gym. Commit to 30 minutes of movement a day to see a shift in how you view your own body.

Cultivating Your Own Passions

There is nothing more attractive than a person who has a life outside of their relationship. If you are constantly available to text, it signals that you might not have much else going on.

• The Scarcity Principle: When you are busy pursuing a hobby, learning a language, or advancing your career, your time becomes more valuable.
• Conversation Material: Passion creates a spark. When you talk about something you love, your eyes light up. You become instantly more engaging than someone who only talks about the weather or work drama.

Refining Your Personal Style

You don’t need to follow every passing trend, but putting effort into your presentation shows self-respect.

• Fit is Everything: Wear clothes that fit your current body, not the body you had five years ago or the one you want next year. Well-fitted clothing instantly elevates your appearance.
• Signature Scent: Smell is strongly linked to memory. Finding a signature fragrance can leave a lingering impression that is subtly seductive.
• Grooming Habits: Distinctive details like well-kept nails, healthy hair, or a skincare routine signal that you take care of yourself. People are naturally drawn to those who value themselves.

Conclusion

Fortunately, it’s 2024, not 1924, and technology is there to enhance our love and sex lives if we use it wisely and responsibly. 

You can craft the perfect flirty text to make his day, send his heart racing, and elevate your flirting game to the next level. 

Whether you’re looking for a sweet good morning text, a cheeky message to send late at night, or fun and flirty questions to break the ice, these texts have got you covered. 

So go ahead, hit send, and let him know how much you miss him, compliment his attractiveness, tease his fantasies and desires (but remember that timing is everything), and make him think about your next date. 

Get flirty and make him feel special today!

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References

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https://doi.org/10.4324/9780203732496

2. Kennair, L. E. O., Wade, T. J., Tallaksen, M. T., Grøntvedt, T. V., Kessler, A. M., Burch, R. L., & Bendixen, M. (2022). Perceived effectiveness of flirtation tactics: The effects of sex, mating context and individual differences in US and Norwegian samples. Evolutionary Psychology, 20(1).
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6. Perel, E. (2015, March). The secret to desire in a long-term relationship [Video]. TED Conferences.
https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship

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