Whether you’re looking to ignite a spark or fan the flames of passion, I’m here to be your flirty text coach.
So, get your sass on because these 170 flirty things to say to a guy range from cute and playful to downright flaming hot habanero pepper spicy.
Consider yourself warned.
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How to Flirt With a Guy Over Text
The key to flirting over text is to be confident but not over the top. It’s all about balance — tease him a little, compliment him, and show off your sense of humor. The best flirty texts feel natural, like something you would say in person.
You want to make him smile, maybe even blush a bit, and most importantly, leave him wanting more. Here are a few tips to note before we give you some examples:
- Make sure he knows you’re flirting or it could get awkward.
- Remember to use his name.
- Get to the point; don’t beat around the bush with small talk.
- Tease him a bit.
- Introduce a low-stakes debate, like pineapple on pizza.
- Ask questions to get him to flirt back.
- Compliment him.
- Mix it up with emojis, photos, gifs, and even audio messages.
- But leave the juicy details to the imagination!
If you follow this strategy, you’ll have him flirting back in no time. So load up on material to respond with by checking out our sample texts, some silly, some spicy!
Flirty Texts to Make Him Laugh
Are you made of copper and tellurium? Because you’re Cu-Te.Why did the melons get married? Because they cantaloupe.I was going to send you something sexy, but the mailman told me to get out of the mailbox.What did the pickle say to his girlfriend? “You mean a great dill to me.“If you were a pizza, you`d be my supreme. 😉Why did the pencil ask the paper out? Because it thought it was the perfect match. Just like us!I'm currently in a serious relationship with my bed. But you're a close second.I hope you like breakfast because I love you a waffle lot.Is your name Starbucks? Because I like you a latte.What did one wall say to the other wall? “I`ll meet you at the corner, I think I've fallen for you.“If you were a vegetable, you`d be a cute-cumber. I'd be a tomato, because I go red whenever I see you!🍅🥒Are you a beaver? Because daaaaam!Why did the banana go to the doctor? Because it wasn't peeling well. But you always make me feel better?Why did the calculator go on a date with the pencil? Because it knew it could always count on it.I'm not saying I'm Batman, but I am saying no one has ever seen me and Batman in the same room. Also, Alfred says hi!Are you religious? Because you're the answer to all my prayers. Also, where's the nearest confessional? 🙏Are you a tower? Because Eiffel for you.Why did the computer go to therapy? Because it had too many relationships to process, but I only need you.I'm not a photographer, but I can picture us together. Preferably somewhere with an open bar.You must be a thief, because you stole my heart.If kisses were snowflakes, I'd send you a blizzard.Is your name Chapstick? Because you’re da balm.Can I follow you home? My parents always told me to follow my dreams.Is your body from McDonald's? Because I’m lovin’ it!I'm watching a rom-com and pretending you're the leading man. Don't let me down!Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes. Send help. And snacks.Why did the painting go to jail? Because it was framed. But I'm framed by your love.Do you like science? Because I've got my ion you. 🧪I'm on a seafood diet. I see food and I eat it. Wanna be my main course?I know I’m kind of a hopeless ramen-tic, but just wanted to say I love you — like, pho real.
One of the best ways to flirt with a guy over text is to keep it low-key, and silly jokes and puns are the best way to do it.
Laughter is like relationship glue — it sticks you together and fills in the cracks. Research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reveals that “humor can significantly enhance emotional intimacy and overall relationship satisfaction.”[1]
By sending these lighthearted and amusing messages, you’re not only keeping the conversation engaging but also reminding him of the fun and playful connection you share.
Just remember, timing is everything in comedy — and texting. Maybe don’t drop that cute-cumber line when he’s giving a big presentation at work. Unless you want him giggling in front of his boss, in which case, go for it. No judgment here.
Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy
Think of these texts as a digital wink from across the room — an invitation to come over, but no pressure.
Just saw something that reminded me of you and made me smile. Hope you’ll have a great day!Quick question: What’s your go-to karaoke song? Asking for future reference. 😉I was thinking about that time we played pool at the Black Dog. Care for a rematch?Random thought: If we were in a movie, what genre do you think it would be?I’m debating whether to binge-watch something new or stick to my old favorites. Got any recommendations?A little birdie told me you're an Agatha Christie novel guru. Any suggestions for a newbie?This might sound random, but what’s your favorite ice cream flavor? It’s for science.Just walked past Gio’s pizza and it made me wonder if you’ve ever tried it.How do you feel about spontaneous road trips? Asking for a friend.It’s so cold outside I’m thinking about teleporting to Hawaii. Want to join me?Got any exciting plans this weekend? I need some inspiration!I just found the most perfect meme to rule them all. Want to see?Batman and Poison Ivy, or Joker and Harley Quinn? No pressure, just thinking of my Halloween costume.I’ve found this new playlist and thought you might like it. Want me to share?You know, I think we should totally team up at the next trivia night.Just realized we haven’t had a proper debate about how you like your coffee, and I think we should settle this ASAP!Do you have a favorite meditation app? You’re always so cool and relaxed, I thought you might show me your ways.I just read the funniest article and thought you’d appreciate it. Want the link?You always know the best gym to go to. Any new spots I should visit?Since you're my personal movie guru, and I have a free evening — Deadpool and Wolverine or Twisters? What do you think?
Flirting is both an art and a science.
Not surprisingly, a study published in the journal Evolutionary Psychology reveals that flirting tactics vary depending on one’s gender and flirting intention.
Women looking for short-term adventure find that signaling sexual availability is more effective, while men aiming for long-term commitments focus on displaying generosity and willingness to invest in the relationship.[2]
And that, my friend, is an essential piece of information if you are still unsure about his intentions and figuring out how to test his love.
Whatever your or his intention, flirting should feel like an open invitation, a welcoming door that lets the other person decide whether to step through.
Keep it comfortable and natural, not like you’re acting out a scene from a cheesy erotica novel.
Good Morning & Good Night Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy
Wake him up with a smile and send him to bed with dreamy thoughts of you with 30 of the best flirty texts to make his day and night special.
Sending you good energy for the day.Hoping my day goes fast. Can't wait to see you.I just wish I could kiss you good morning right now.Good morning. You're hot. That's it. That's the text.Morning, handsome! Can’t wait to see you later.Just wanted to say “Hi” to my favorite person.Rise and shine! You’re on my mind.Have a magical morning.Never thought mornings could be so good until I met you!Good morning! Just wanted to say thanks for being you.Morning! Can’t wait to hear your voice today.Good morning to the first thing on my mind today.Good night! Be sure to get your full eight hours.Good night, handsome. Dream of our next date!Sleep tight and dream of me.If you promise to dream of me, I promise to dream of you.You are the reason I fall asleep with a smile on my face. Just saying.I just wanted to say — sweet dreams, mi amor. I will be thinking of you the whole night.I love that you never forget to text me good night.Sending you kisses and hugs for a wonderful and peaceful sleep.
While I didn’t find a study on good morning texts or good night texts specifically, research shows that regular, affectionate digital communication boosts relationship satisfaction.
According to a study published in Cyberpsychology: Journal of Psychosocial Research on Cyberspace, consistent, positive messaging can enhance emotional closeness and security in relationships.[3]
So, those little innocent texts you send him really do make a difference! Start drafting that good morning text right now!
Cute Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy
Turn up the sweetness with these cute text messages that will make him go “Awwwww . . . .”
They’re perfect for adding a little sugar to your sass.
I can’t help but smile whenever I see your name pop up on my phone.If kisses were snowflakes, I'd send you a blizzard.Is it just me, or does everything get better when you're around?I was just thinking about how cute you are and had to tell you.I must be a snowflake because I've fallen for you.Want to know a secret? You're the reason I check my phone every five minutes.If you were a vegetable, you'd be a cute-cumber.If you were a fruit, you'd be a fine-apple.You make the butterflies in my stomach do the happy dance.Just so you know, I'm wearing that smile you gave me.You must be tired because you’ve been running through my mind all day. (This one’s an oldie but a goodie.)You're the reason even my worst days are worth looking forward to.Every time I see you, I fall in love all over again.Your hand looks heavy — can I hold it for you?I was wondering if you have an extra heart because you just stole mine.I hope your day is as amazing as you are.Can I borrow a kiss? I promise I’ll give it back.I’ve got a problem. Can you help me? I can’t stop thinking about you.You’re my favorite distraction.Is it weird that I miss you even though we just saw each other?
Ever wonder why those mushy couple moments make you wince while they seem completely lost in each other?
A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology explains why romantic gestures feel cheesy to outsiders but magical to those involved.
Lovers are blinded by a phenomenon called positive illusions. They simply see their partner through rosy lenses. Outsiders miss this emotional context, making grand gestures seem awkward.[4]
So, if some of those messages made you cringe, good. They’re supposed to. Without context, they’re just cheesy lines. You need a charming guy and some warm fuzzies in your heart to make them meaningful.
Still, proceed with caution. If you send texts like these to someone who isn’t in the same place as you romantically, they may do more harm than good.
Funny Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy
Humor is the key to the heart, or whatever it is they say. We all love a cheesy pickup line. Here are 20 of them to tickle his funny bone.
I had a blast writing these, so even if you aren’t going to use them, enjoy a good laugh!
A quick question: Are you an alien? Because my heart has been abducted!Loved the sweater you were wearing earlier. Is it made of boyfriend material?Are you a camera? Because every time I look at you, I smile.Are you made of copper and tellurium? Because you’re Cu-Te.Do you like Star Wars? Because Yoda man for me.Do you have a map at home? Because I keep getting lost in your eyes.Are you a Wi-Fi signal? Because I’m feeling a strong connection.Are you a parking ticket? Because you’ve got FINE written all over you.I’m not a photographer, but I can definitely picture us together.Do you like raisins? How about a date?Do you have a name, or can I call you mine?Are you a time traveler? Because I can see you in my future.Do you have a Band-Aid? Because I just scraped my knee falling for you.Is your name Google? Because you have everything I’ve been searching for.Do you believe in extraterrestrials? Because your charm is out of this world.Do you have a sunburn, or are you always this hot?Do you have a quarter? Because I want to call my mom and tell her I met The One.Are you an electrician? Because you’re lighting up my day.Do you have a magic lamp? Because I’m wishing for you.Are you a loan from a bank? Because you have my interest.
According to the previously mentioned study from Evolutionary Psychology, making someone laugh or enjoying their jokes is the most effective way to connect, especially for men seeking long-term relationships. For women, laughter acts like a compatibility beacon, signaling mutual attraction.[5]
While we may debate the effectiveness of pickup lines when delivered unironically, we cannot deny that if skillfully thrown in as a joke, they do their job quite well.
That’s because humor is often vague and ambiguous, giving the recipient an open door. They can either take it as a joke and brush it off or play along. That’s why pickup lines are such a great flirtation device. Come on . . . “Yoda man for me”?! I LOLed more than once!
Seductive Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy
Ready to turn up the heat?
Whether you’re interested in a short fling or you’ve been texting for a while and it’s time to make things steamy, these seductive texts will lay a carpet of rose petals straight to your door . . . or, you know, at least to the bedroom.
Guess what: I dreamed about you last night.Do you have any idea what your smile does to me?I’m just taking a bubble bath right now, but we can text if you don’t mind a little steam. ;)It’s freezing in my apartment! Wish you were here to keep me warm.I can’t wait to see you tonight . . . I’m thinking about wearing that dress you like.Hypothetically, if I said “come over,” would you come?Be honest . . . have you ever fantasized about me?Is it wrong that I can’t stop imagining what it would be like to kiss you?I need help unzipping my dress. Can you come over and help?Want to skip the gym and have a private workout session together?Do you prefer giving or receiving?The way you touched my back today sent a shiver down my spine. I thought you should know.I love feeling your eyes on me.The way you say my name sends shivers down my spine.The way your brilliant mind works is such a turn-on.You make me feel things I’ve never felt before.Looking at you makes my body react in the most inappropriate ways.I think about you in ways that are NSFW.Is this photo too sexy to post on IG? (send photo)I can’t wait to be alone with you.
Not everyone’s into a slow burn, but that’s where the magic lies — building tension, hinting, and planting ideas that turn out to be irresistible.
It’s not about what’s out in the open but what’s just slightly concealed, leaving plenty of room for his imagination to run wild. That’s the real art of seduction.
Esther Perel, my ultimate guru on desire and the star of one of the most-watched TED Talks ever, says that creating tension is essential for keeping the sexual spark and emotional connection between partners.[6]
Esther emphasizes that maintaining a sense of mystery and engaging in playful interactions helps sustain the erotic tension that fuels desire. It also fosters curiosity and anticipation, key elements of a passionate and fulfilling partnership.[7]
So, whether you’ve been together forever or are just diving deeper (wink), remember: Deduction is more about what’s not said than what is.
Hot Flirty Texts to Send to a Guy
Once you’ve snagged his full attention and he can’t stop daydreaming about you, it’s time to play with some bolder moves.
These hot texts are guaranteed to make him blush, to say the least.
We are now stepping into territory where texting becomes, well, a little bit more.
Can you come and help me with something in the bedroom?If you were here, I’d give you a private show . . .I wish I could control myself better around you, but when I see you, all I want to do is rip your clothes off.I can't stop imagining all the ways you could drive me wild.Your body is so irresistible. I keep imagining it on me.Been thinking about your hands on my hips and would really love you to make it real.Feeling daring tonight. Want to see how daring I can be?I hope you like lace because you’ll be getting it off me tonight.What would you prefer I wear tonight, a thong or nothing at all?I have something planned for later. I think you’ll like it.It might sound greedy, but I need you so bad right now.I want to know the fantasy you’ve had about us. Tell me yours, and I’ll tell you mine.I want you to think of me naked.If you were here, I would do some bad girl things to you.Sitting at work feels so boring when I could be at home doing filthy things with you.I think it’s time we tried . . . you know what.I just laid in bed for the last hour thinking about you . . . . Guess what I was doing!I’m so turned on thinking about seeing you later.Tonight, I want to kiss my way from your lips down to . . . however far you want me to go.Can’t stop thinking about your lips on mine.
You can clearly see how these are more explicit than seductive texts but not nearly as explicit as the spicy ones you’ll read next.
The thing about sexting is that it’s a subtle, intimate game of very explicit content.
A study published in Computers in Human Behavior found that couples who engaged in consensual sexting reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction. However, this comes with the caveat that both parties must feel safe and respected throughout the process.[8]
While sexting is a great tool to enhance your sex life and, therefore, your relationship, it should all be done within the clearly set boundaries that you and your partner define.
Never share things that you are not comfortable sharing, and do not ask anyone to share anything they don’t want to share. Simple as that.
And a quick PSA: Be aware of the risks. Not everyone out there has your best interests at heart. Sharing intimate content can sometimes lead to unwanted consequences like sextortion.
The key takeaway? Keep communication open, respect each other’s limits, and always prioritize consent.
Spicy Texts to Send to a Guy
These texts are so spicy and steamy, they’ll make him loosen his tie to catch a breath.
Handle with care (and respect).
My legs are missing you in between them . . .When you come here, I want you to take your clothes off and lie down.I need to feel you inside me.I can barely concentrate; I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me.Knowing that you can completely overpower me makes me so crazy horny.None’s ever fucked me like you did last night. Thank you.Just thinking about you makes me so damn wet!Still feeling sore after last night. 🙂I miss the way you make me feel, but most of all . . . I miss you inside me.Make me come . . . with your tongue.I’m going to make you forget your name.I’m waiting for you. On my knees.I can still taste you.You looked so freaking hot in the morning.Tonight, you’re not allowed to finish until I say so.If you can guess what color my bra is, I’ll give you a blow job tonight!I want to hear you breathing in my ear when I make you come.I just thought of a new position that I desperately want to try with you.I masturbated thinking about you last night.I can barely concentrate; I just keep thinking about you grabbing me and taking me.
As I wrote before, this is supposed to be fun and keep you excited for each other. If it feels uncomfortable, maybe sexting is not your thing, or maybe you are not there yet as a couple.
Don’t listen to the internet about it; only listen to yourself (well, and your partner because nothing is sexier than consent).
Conclusion
Fortunately, it’s 2024, not 1924, and technology is there to enhance our love and sex lives if we use it wisely and responsibly.
You can craft the perfect flirty text to make his day, send his heart racing, and elevate your flirting game to the next level.
Whether you’re looking for a sweet good morning text, a cheeky message to send late at night, or fun and flirty questions to break the ice, these texts have got you covered.
So go ahead, hit send, and let him know how much you miss him, compliment his attractiveness, tease his fantasies and desires (but remember that timing is everything), and make him think about your next date.
Get flirty and make him feel special today!
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FAQs
How to flirt with him over text?
To flirt with him over text, send a sweet message that shows you’re thinking about him without sounding too eager. Playful banter and cheeky texts can get his heart racing. Start with something like, “Hey, just saw something that reminded me of you and couldn’t help but smile. How’s your day going?”
How to start a flirty text conversation?
To start a flirty text conversation with the guy you like, try sending a light-hearted message like, “Hey, I just discovered the best pizza place in town. What’s your favorite spot?” Ask him questions about his interests and make him feel special. These casual and fun texts will make him want to chat more.
How do you make him blush over text?
To make him blush over text, send a sweet goodnight text like, “Good Night, handsome. Dream of our next date!” Or try sending texts to make him smile: “You’re crushing it today! Just thought you should know.” These flirty things to say to a guy over text hit the sweet spot for creating intimacy.
References
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Hi, can this conversation starters be used to open conversations for a guy I’ve just met online?
Thank you for your comment, Fave! Yes, absolutely—these starters can work really well for someone you’ve just met online. Starting with a light, open-ended question is a great way to see if there’s a natural flow between you two. Just keep it friendly and let the conversation unfold! 😊