{"id":512,"date":"2022-06-21T11:24:58","date_gmt":"2022-06-21T11:24:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/breakthecycle.org\/spotlight-warning-signs-explosive-temper\/"},"modified":"2024-04-13T21:50:37","modified_gmt":"2024-04-13T21:50:37","slug":"spotlight-warning-signs-explosive-temper","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/blog\/spotlight-warning-signs-explosive-temper\/","title":{"rendered":"Spotlight on Warning Signs: Explosive Temper"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Please note: Entries within this blog may contain references to instances of domestic abuse, dating abuse, sexual assault, abuse or harassment. At all times, Break the Cycle encourages readers to take whatever precautions necessary to protect themselves emotionally and psychologically.\u00a0 If you would like to speak with an advocate, please contact a 24\/7 peer advocate at\u00a0<\/span>866-331-9474<\/a>\u00a0 or text “loveis” to 22522.<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

Spotlight on Warning Signs: Explosive Temper<\/div>\n
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Everybody gets angry from time to time. Traffic is a nightmare, your favorite sport team loses their championship game, your new shirt was ruined in the laundry — the list of common grievances like delayed flights and having a waiter bring the wrong dinner goes on and on. Yet when someone acts angry for no reason, or explodes in anger, that could be cause for alarm, because extreme or explosive tempers are one of the warning signs of dating abuse<\/a>.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a clear difference between reasonable and unreasonable anger. For example, reasonable anger could look like someone being upset about something but expressing it in a healthy way and calming down quickly after an outburst. Unreasonable anger, however, can look like someone getting angry over nothing or angry all the time. If the level of anger is disproportionate to the situation — like screaming until they\u2019re red in the face about something very minor — then it\u2019s explosive or uncontrolled anger.<\/p>\n

An explosive temper can be used to control a dating partner\u2019s behavior. Someone may change their own behavior so as not to anger or upset their dating partner, doing whatever it takes to avoid making them angry. This could include changing the way they dress or talk, cancelling plans, stopping activities they like or isolating themselves from family and friends. Moreover, the partner with a temper may rationalize their anger so that it seems normal, even though it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

It may not seem like a big deal at first to a dating partner. They may make excuses like, \u201cthey just get angry\u201d or \u201cthey just have a bad temper.\u201d However, that bad temper is serious cause for concern. That\u2019s because that anger can escalate into other abusive behaviors like emotional<\/a> and\/or physical violence<\/a>. They may exhibit other abusive dating behaviors, such as blaming their partner or claiming they provoked them, throwing household objects, kicking, punching, biting, or brandishing a weapon.<\/p>\n

While anger is a healthy emotion when expressed properly, it\u2019s never okay for a dating partner to yell or scream, especially to the point where someone may be fearful of them. It is absolutely not okay for a dating partner to scream, yell, throw objects, or threaten to harm their partner or themselves in any way.<\/p>\n

If you or someone you know is experiencing dating violence due to a partner with an explosive temper, , text \u201cloveis\u201d to 22522 or talk to one of our trained peer advocates 24\/7. Remember, everyone deserves a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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