{"id":1246,"date":"2022-06-21T11:27:45","date_gmt":"2022-06-21T11:27:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/breakthecycle.org\/i_2fii4_shouldiget\/"},"modified":"2023-12-14T19:53:22","modified_gmt":"2023-12-14T19:53:22","slug":"i_2fii4_shouldiget","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/i_2fii4_shouldiget\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I get a domestic violence restraining order?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"o877gxqusjkh4ofpr\"><b><span style=\"color: #669933;\">Should I get a domestic violence restraining order?<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"o877gxqusjkh4ofpr\">While a restraining order can be an effective and powerful legal tool to help you keep yourself safe, it is not your only choice. There are limitations to what a restraining order can do, and there are many reasons why you may or may not want a restraining order. A restraining order is not right for all people and it cannot guarantee your safety.<\/p>\n<p class=\"o877gxqusjkh4ofpr\">Making the decision whether or not to apply for a restraining order can be very difficult, but it must be your decision. The following lists may help you decide whether a restraining order is the right choice for you.<\/p>\n<p class=\"o877gxqusjkh4ofpr\"><span style=\"color: #669933;\">Reasons to get a restraining order:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>It may make you feel more confident because you are taking control of the situation.<\/li>\n<li>If you have a restraining order, you do not have to wait for the abuser to hurt you before calling the police; you can call the police as soon as the abuser contacts you or comes near you.<\/li>\n<li>It can encourage school officials and other authorities to help protect you from the abuser.<\/li>\n<li>Police tend to give priority to calls where the victim has a restraining order.<\/li>\n<li>To establish an official record of the abuse.<\/li>\n<li>To make the abuser move out of a home that you two share.<\/li>\n<li>To establish a safer custody and visitation arrangement for your kids.<\/li>\n<li>To allow you to enjoy school, work and other activities with less threat of harm.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"o877gxqusjkh4ofpr\"><span style=\"color: #669933;\">Reasons not to get a restraining order:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>If you will be uncomfortable calling the police if the abuser violates the restraining order.<\/li>\n<li>If you don&#8217;t want friends or family to know about the abuse.<\/li>\n<li>If you think it will make the abuser more violent and will put you in greater danger.<\/li>\n<li>If you are afraid of peer or gang retaliation.<\/li>\n<li>If you or your family is moving far away, you may feel safe without it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"o877gxqusjkh4ofpr\"><span style=\"color: #669933;\">Remember, a restraining order cannot:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Guarantee your personal safety.<\/li>\n<li>Guarantee the abuser won&#8217;t still be able to intimidate or scare you.<\/li>\n<li>Guarantee the safety and welfare of your children.<\/li>\n<li>Guarantee the abuser will be out of your life.<\/li>\n<li>Guarantee the abuser won&#8217;t destroy property that may be irreplaceable, like photos, important papers and things with sentimental value.<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Cure&#8221; the abuser.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"cpx\">\u00a91998-2003 Break the Cycle. All Rights Reserved.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Should I get a domestic violence restraining order? While a restraining order can be an &#8230; <a title=\"Should I get a domestic violence restraining order?\" class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/i_2fii4_shouldiget\/\" aria-label=\"More on Should I get a domestic violence restraining order?\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1246"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1246"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1246\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3910,"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1246\/revisions\/3910"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.breakthecycle.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1246"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}