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It Was Never About Clothes: Student’s Haunting Photos Confront Assault Myths

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Standing amidst a gallery of striking images, each depicting a single outfit against a stark black backdrop, viewers are immediately drawn into the silent stories these clothes tell. 

At the heart of this evocative photo series is college photographer Kat Cambareri, who’s decided to confront the pervasive and harmful question that so many survivors of sexual assault face: “What were you wearing?”

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The Story Behind the Series

Kat’s inspiration

Kat’s journey toward this impactful project began during her sophomore year at Arcadia University. A passionate photographer since middle school, she always believed in the power of visual storytelling. 

However, it was her growing interest in women’s health and her decision to minor in global public health that steered her artistic vision toward advocacy. 

A friend’s recommendation led her to Jon Krakauer’s Missoula, a harrowing exploration of sexual assaults at the University of Montana. As she turned each page, Kat was struck by the staggering statistics and the silent suffering of countless survivors. 

This profound realization ignited a determination within her: to use her camera not just to capture images but to amplify voices and spark change.

Finding participants

With a clear vision in mind, Kat took to social media to find participants for her project. Her request was both courageous and compassionate: she sought volunteers willing to share the clothes they were wearing at the time of their assault. 

The response was immediate and overwhelming. Messages flooded in from acquaintances and strangers alike, each one a testament to the prevalence of the issue and the need for dialogue. While many were eager to contribute, most wished to remain anonymous — a reflection of the lingering stigma and fear surrounding sexual assault. 

Respecting their wishes, Kat adapted her approach, choosing to photograph the clothing alone. This decision not only honored their privacy but also allowed the garments to speak volumes on behalf of those who wore them.


Capturing the Message

The creative process

In the quiet solitude of her studio, Kat meticulously arranged each piece of clothing against a deep black backdrop. The simplicity of the setting was intentional; by eliminating distractions, the focus remained solely on the garments and the weight of the stories they carried. 

As she handled each item — a casual T-shirt, a favorite pair of jeans, a delicate dress — she felt a profound connection to the individuals behind them. “It’s so easy to hold the clothing, and put myself in someone else’s shoes,” she reflected. 

Through her lens, Kat sought to capture not just images but emotions, creating a visual narrative that speaks to the heart of the viewer and invites them to share in the survivors’ experiences.

Breaking the myths

Each photograph in Kat’s series serves as a powerful rebuttal to the insidious question, “What were you wearing?” By presenting the clothing without context, she challenges viewers to confront their own biases and misconceptions. 

The varied nature of the outfits underscores a critical truth: Sexual assault is never about the victim’s attire. It’s an act rooted in power, control, and the perpetrator’s choices. Kat’s work compels us to recognize and dismantle the harmful narratives that blame survivors and to instead focus on fostering understanding, empathy, and respect. 

Her series is not just art; it’s a catalyst for societal change, urging us to shift the conversation toward consent and personal agency.


Statistics That Support the Message

Sexual assault on college campuses

Behind Kat’s poignant images lie unsettling statistics that highlight the urgency of addressing sexual assault. According to the Association of American Universities, 26.4% of female students report having experienced sexual violence during their time in college.[1

Additionally, 13% of all students encounter rape or sexual assault while attending university.[2] 

These figures represent more than just numbers; they reflect real individuals whose lives are profoundly affected. Many assaults go unreported due to fears of reprisal, victim blaming, or the belief that their voices won’t be heard. Kat’s work shines a light on these silent struggles, emphasizing that the harrowing statistics of sexual assault on campuses are not just data but an ongoing issue that demands attention and action.


Where to View the Photo Series

Kat’s photography website

While Kat’s original website is no longer active, her compelling photo series continues to resonate through archived versions available online. These images offer a deeply moving experience, inviting viewers to reflect on the reality that sexual assault is about power and control — not clothing or appearance. 

For those interested in exploring Kat’s work further, the archived project provides an opportunity to engage with her message and support the ongoing conversation about sexual assault prevention and survivor advocacy.


Further Resources

Support and awareness

Understanding and addressing sexual assault requires a collective effort rooted in education and empathy. 

From detailed guides on survivors’ rights to information on fostering healthy relationships, these resources empower individuals to challenge myths, support healing, and advocate for change.

Dating and relationship abuse 

Ending a relationship

External resources

Starting and being in a relationship


Conclusion

Kat Cambareri’s photo series is a profound call to action. Through her evocative imagery, she confronts us with uncomfortable truths and urges us to reevaluate long-held misconceptions. 

Her work is a testament to the power of visual storytelling in shifting perspectives and breaking cycles of shame and silence. We each play a vital role in creating a more supportive and just environment for survivors everywhere.


References

1. Westat. (2019). AAU campus climate survey on sexual assault and sexual misconduct. Association of American Universities.
https://www.aau.edu/sites/default/files/AAU-Files/Key-Issues/Campus-Safety/AAU-Campus-Climate-Survey-FINAL-10-20-17.pdf

2. Fisher, B. S., Cullen, F. T., Turner, M. G., & Langton, L. (2000). The sexual victimization of college women. Violence Against Women, 6(2), 110–136.


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  • Milena might not be a relationship professor, but she's definitely been through it all, learned her lessons, and is here to spill the tea. She combines the wisdom of renowned relationship specialists with her own romantic adventures to offer relatable and practical advice.

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