Last month, Break the Cycle staff participated in the Trauma Informed Care Roundtable, conducted by the Sexual Violence Justice Institute (SVJI) of the Minnesota Coalition Against Sexual Assault.
Going through a breakup is always difficult, no matter the circumstances. But going through a breakup after being in an unhealthy relationship can feel even worse. It’s important to remember you’re not alone and have the support of family and friends to get you through this tough time. Plus, it’s necessary to remember that a breakup is temporary -- the feeling will not last forever. Here are some ways to help recover after a breakup:
You’ve just gone through a breakup. It’s intense, painful, and sad. These feelings are totally natural and expected. Despite these common feelings, many people don’t want to accept or understand that their relationship has ended. What do you do when you break up with someone who won’t let go, especially if you were in an unhealthy or abusive relationship?
Rely On Your Support Systems
When people start dating, there can be all kinds of fireworks and “butterflies in the stomach.” Some time later, those feelings may have faded, replaced by the feeling that the two shouldn’t be together anymore. So how can people break up without making them miserable, causing a scene, or worse?
Treat Partners With Respect
First dates are exciting for anyone, especially for young people who may not have gone out on a date! That said, a first date can also turn into the perfect storm of nerves, hormones and tactlessness. It can be really easy to screw up the date by saying or doing the wrong thing. If you want to make them say “aww” instead of “ugh,” here are 10 things you definitely shouldn’t say on a first date:
Actress and singer Jennifer Lopez recently admitted she's been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past.
"I've never gotten a black eye or a busted lip, but I've felt abused in one way or another: mentally, emotionally, verbally," Lopez writes in a new memoir, True Love. Sadly, J.Lo proves that not only does abuse come in many forms, but that thankfully, people in emotionally abusive relationships can leave, even if they don’t feel like it's possible.
One threatening text may not be enough for someone to realize it’s abuse, but multiple and repeated threatening texts are a pattern of behavior. The same goes for emails, phone calls, voicemails, and messages online. And often, when abuse happens digitally or verbally, it can escalate to something physical. Documenting abuse can not only identify the red flags, but it can help a person take steps to stop future abuse, as well as prepare someone if they decide to take legal action.
In many states, the laws are designed so that the victim can obtain a protection order or restraining order without a lawyer. But say there are children involved or there are issues with immigration. What if the abuser has a lawyer? If any of these pertain to your or your child’s case, then it’s a good idea to try and find a lawyer to help.
How Will A Lawyer Help Me?
Digital technology continues to eke a permanent place in American lives. How we communicate, who we meet, and how we meet them. How we manage our lives are increasingly dictated by the Internet, social media and cell phones. But how do couples in committed relationships, married or not, use technology to manage their lives?