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  • 1 in 3 of your peers experience physical, sexual, or both forms of dating abuse by a partner. Some might call that a public health epidemic. 

  • While in college, over half of your peers will experience abusive or controlling behaviors from their partners. 

  • Change begins with you! Read the sheets below, join Let's Be Real, and let's make A+ relationships the norm. 

  • These stats will give you the 411: General Dating Abuse Facts

  • Find the common Warning Signs of dating abuse HERE

  • Let's Be Real members say what A+ Relationships mean to them!

  • These are the kind of quizzes you actually want to take.

NEW! Healthy Relationships 101 - this handout and video is for you if you say:

  • "I don't do relationships; it's all about the hookups for me."
  • "Long-term, committed relationships are my jam."
  • "Eh I'm not into dating, but I do care about keeping things healthy with my friends."

NEW! Consent - this handout is key if you say:

  • "Everyone keeps talking about consent, but idk what that is." 
  • "I know consent is required, but won't that ruin the mood?"
  • "I know what consent is, but explaining it to my friends is a whole other story."

NEW! Boundaries - this handout is your go-to guide if you say:

  • "I have literally no idea how to set boundaries."
  • "Setting boundaries makes me v uncomfortable."
  • "What do you mean set boundaries? I'm not sure I get it."
  • "I'm good at setting some boundaries, but it would help to have examples to tell my friends."

Freedom And Space - this handout and video is your one-stop-shop if you say:

  • "I feel suffocated in my relationship, but I don't want to upset my bf/gf by asking for space."
  • "How can I balance my friends, schoolwork, family, AND partner?"
  • "It seems like I can't do anything without my bff and sometimes I just want to be by myself."

Arguing Fairly - this handout is for you if you say: 

  • "I want to talk to my partner about a problem, but I don't want to get in a big fight about it."
  • "My partner is always calling me names and yelling when we fight. Is that normal?"
  • "What does arguing fairly even mean?"

Breaking Up - this handout and video is for you if you say: 

  • "I want to break up with my partner, but I wouldn't know where to start."
  • "I'm not happy in my relationship. Should I break up with them?"
  • "I just broke up with my bf/gf and I'm feeling down."

NEW! Dating Apps & Safety - this handout is a must read if you say: 

  • "I am never not on Tinder." 
  • "I chat with people online all the time, but sometimes things are creepy."
  • "My friends meet up with people from apps, but I worry about keeping them safe."

Defining LGBTQ* - this handout is for you if you say: 

  • "Wait, I thought the acronym was LGBTQIA?"
  • "I know what the letters mean, but not the asterik."
  • "I'm trying to learn more so I can be a better ally."

Preferred Gender Pronouns (PGP) - this handout is key if you say: 

  • "What is a PGP?"
  • "I've seen people say their pronouns are they/them, but I'm not sure what that means."
  • "Why is respecting someone's preferred gender pronouns important?"

Help a Friend - this safety planinfographicand web page are essential if you say:

  • "My friend told me they are being abused. What do I say?"
  • "My bff's significant other flips out on them for the littlest things in front of everyone. How do I tell them that's unhealthy?"
  • "I saw my sibling's friend with benefits slap them. What can I say to let them know that's not ok?"
  • "Our other friends stopped talking to my bff because they won't leave their significant other. How do I show that I still love my bff no matter what?"

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